In my many years
exploring human behavior the one element
that stands out more than anything is how troubled young people always
seem to have abusive (physical and/or emotional) and inattentive
parents. I tend to cast considerable responsibility on parents
for raising their children. I've raised three myself so I know
how difficult the job can be... but it's still YOUR responsibility as a
parent First off, your child arrived here at this website more
than likely in one
of three ways... by
accident (usually through another link somewhere on the net),
intentionally as a referral from someone else, or from doing a net
search on a word or phrase specifically used in here (like
'necrophilia').
Now, that latter reason, intentionally,
could perhaps be related to a
school project or assignment. But chances are, based on my own
visitor stats, it's probably not. As a parent noticing your
child visiting a site like this you have some options. The first
option is the typical knee-jerk reaction of getting angry with your
child for visiting a sex site and/or 'punishing' them by taking away
their PC or threatening the wrath of God. But a smart parent will
take their queue and sit down
with their child and try and c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-e with them on their
level. Going by the emails and chats I've received from those
stating they were young (18 or younger) many of these young people have
some serious emotiional issues at play regarding their sexual
feelings... especially (but certainly not limited to) young
females.
If you are a parent and if you truly care
about your child, and your
child is under 18 and still under your care, then I would highly
recommend you talk to them about not only their sexual feelings but
also their feelings in general as sometimes when young people visit a
site like this there's something more going on besides the apparent
interest in this fetish or something similar. Because if you
don't try and do something to address their emotional needs and
curiosity then you may just be missing an opportunity to be a true
parent. But remember... just being a visitor to this site doesn't
mean in ALL cases that your child is emotionally unfit. But
because they are still under your care it's always best to communicate.
Just a note on how I treat visitors under
18. When a person tells
me their age I am sure we all know it could be anyone on the other end
saying anything they wish to get attention. BUT... while it is
NOT my intention to be a substitute for a child's parent, I have been a
responsible parent and I continue to be sensitive to those who claim to
be in their 'wonder years'. I communicate with them by listening
to what they have to say. I encourage them to express
themselves... and when I sense there's something more going on in their
mind I will recommend they contact their parents first. If they
indicate that their parents are part of the problem (severe emotional
or physical or sexual abuse, which is a big problem) I will recommend
they go to a school authority, social services office, or the police to
report their problems. I'm not here to seduce or create followers
of underaged kids. Many show up at my site as a cry for
help. When they do that.. it's generally because a parent has
fucked up.