Section 2b

Same Sex, Same Reasons
It's been my observation that gay and lesbian preferences have the same essential instinctual origins as those who prefer the opposite gender. When exploring these origins you need to keep referring back to the fact that, again, we are all human and we have all been given certain natural instincts to allow us to survive not only as individuals but as a species as well. Those of us humans prefering the same gender for their sexual expression are still following the same natural human instincts for procreation as those of us who prefer the opposite gender. Of course same gender sexual partners are not about to pass on their genes in the form of offspring and hence people who prefer that sexual expression remain few when compared to the rest of the human population. Quite obviously if the numbers were great then the human species would cease to exist over time.

I don't wish to go into the speculation as to why someone my prefer sexual bonding within the same gender. I leave that up to scientists, religious zealots, philosophers, and soothsayers. But suffice for our discussion here that the desire for same gender personal sexual activity is, in fact, following a true human instinctual course yet at the same time is an aberration in human procreation and evolution.

Human Needs Are Human Needs
Above all else we are humans first. We all dance to the same desires for survival.. we all march to the same tune in requiring the satisfying of physcial and emotional needs. All males get erections and all males have an instinctual craving for sex. All females menstruate and all females crave sex in order to fulfill the need for nurturing offspring. Nature provides us humans with those instincts for procreation. Those that are homosexual simply prefer exercising those instincts within their own gender.

But let's go a bit futher and explore the individual homosexual genders. There's a distinct difference, it seems, in separating sexual pleasure derived from the act alone with that of the natural instinct to bring forth offspring.

We know that in a perfect Darwinian world all males are born with the instinctual desire to mate. Some males choose to 'mate', sexually and emotionally, with another male. Is there an instinctual desire to produce offspring or is the compelling desire for sex more of an act of seduction from another person regardless of gender? We do know that males and females can expel certain levels of pheremones which help in attracting a mate. From that one could speculate that some men prefer the pheremone attraction of other men... and females to females as well. But if you notice the contemporary lifestyle of gay men you will see that there is not a typical desire to want to raise children. In fact, there's very little desire to adopt. Perhaps that in itself reflects the perfectly natural male tendency to 'ignore' offspring that is not their own. You also do not see much, if any, surrogate birthing using the sperm from one male in the homosexual relationship and an egg from a donor female willing to carry to term and then give her newborn to the male couple and walking away. So it seems the need to create offspring is not a complete motivating factor for males in general to desire sex. This seems to carry into the natural desires of male homosexual relationships.

But female homosexuals are a bit different in sexual desires. They also follow the same instinctual needs as any other human female. It's the desire to mate to insure their own survivability and to spawn offspring. The desire to nurture is very high. It would seem homosexual females prefer each other, like their male counterparts, in order to enhance the sexual pleasure and emotional bonding in itself. But it also seems that many females have the added 'burden' of wanting offspring.. to nurture. Hence you see many female couples adopting or going to sperm banks and getting themselves pregnant. While typically one female in the relationship would agree to giving birth that way it is conceivable (no pun intended) for both females in the relationship becoming pregnant with the same sperm donor. Interestingly, according to nature, this satisfies the continuation of our species. Nature doesn't really care HOW we procreate, just that we do.

OK, Enough Of The Natural Motivation.. What About Fetishes And Fantasies?
It's been my observation that for the most part sexual fetishes and fantasies tend to evolve with homosexuals in much the same ways as they do for heterosexuals... but there are a couple notable differences, primarily with gay men. I've noticed a trend in gay men sometimes entertaining fantasies of having a compliant partner; a partner who is unconscious, 'dead' (or really dead), immobile, sleeping, or other such vulnerable and non-responsive condition. This could be due in part to the stigma society has placed on homosexuality (male in particular) and the social discrimination and persecution forcing homosexuals to remain 'closeted'. That in turn seems to help evolve sexual imagery and fantasy to homosexuals prefering an unresponsive or unconscious partner in order that their sexual interests remain undiscovered.