It's Tough Being Well-Known
Fame does
come with a price...
...and the biggest is probably loss of privacy. But
one need not be famous to feel that their private life could be
scrutinized and subsequently their public profile tarnished should word
get out. One could simply be a civic leader in the community, a
high profile business person, or someone in local elected office with
the omnipresence of holding a public trust. As an example, I
mentioned briefly in Section 7a, educators as a group seem to have a
higher than normal interest in certain areas of sexual
expression. While there is nothing wrong with this as teachers
are human too, the reality of life suggests that if word got out in
some form to the community about their sexual activites they wouldn't
have a job teaching our young and innocents anymore. We certainly
don't want an educator who was seen in an S&M bar in the next
county getting flogged on stage being anywhere near children,
right? Well, that's the public mind-set and it's hard to deal
with public opinion. Just look at the trouble former-President
Clinton got himself into when he was in office (in the intern,
actually... ok, ok, cheap joke).
Why
should those in the public eye be singled out when
discussing the individual expression of sexual fantasies?
I've included this little sub-section because I feel there
are inherent realities that make people in the public eye reluctant to
express themselves for reasons many of us take for granted. In my
wanderings in recent years I've come across a few people who have been
guarded about revealing who they are in real life... more so than just
the natural affinity to maintain safety through anonymoty most of us
have. Generally this is revealed when people begin to talk about
their personal lives and how their occupation has been a catalyst in
their troubles. I've chatted with a fellow from the east coast
off and on for a few years now who publishes a very successful
investment magazine and he himself is quite successful and well-known
in financial investment circles. He has a specific necro/snuff
interest and he is very guarded about revealing too much about
himself. I mean, we have been cordial cyber-friends for years and
our chats have not always been about sex or swapping pics. I've
expressed a desire to do business with him on a more formal basis
because his level of expertise could help me... and he's needed some
help from me as well. But in the end we had to simply let that
part go because of his very justified concern of the public finding
out. Such are the drawbacks of chats that originate off the
beaten path. Another example, a few years back I was chatting
with a fellow who was trying to deal with his sexual fantasies of
sleepysex with women. As we chatted it was apparent that his
feelings led to issues with his parents while growing up as they were
'in the movie industry' and seldom around when he needed them. All he
told me was that I would have heard of them before and he couldn't go
into much more detail. But when we talked about him expressing
his fantasy with his girlfriend he was too afraid... not in that she
might leave him thinking he was nuts or something but rather because he
didn't feel his life was that private enough to not be discovered... or
revealed if the relationship failed.
Hollywood
and Politicians
I can imagine some of you reading this and probably
thinking, "Well, if they are famous or important to the public it means
they have money and can do whatever they want anyway." Not
necessarily true. We've just talked about teachers.. they are far
from rich and powerful. Most local politicians in small
communities are serving without pay, in spite of being elected.
But politicians in large cities, state and federal governments, are
very much under public scrutiny for their personal moral
behavior. Right or wrong, it's in our culture to want the people
who hold a public trust to be above the rest of us in sexual morality..
at least as it's preached in conservative religious circles (ie, the
so-called Bible-Belt in the southern states).
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