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ATTENTION RESEARCHERS, STUDENTS,
AUTHORS, INTELLECTUALS AND LAYMEN...
Because there is so little on the
Internet containing any real discussion of necrophilia and related
fantasies that isn't erotica I tend to get a fair share of folks doing
research, writing books, and preparing term papers as a result of some
assignment handed down from a shortsighted instructor. Usually
the class is some subject having to do with social sexual ramifications
of the obsessed or obsessive sexual deviations. The student then
picks "necrophilia" and begins to research away based on the
instructor's required research format. If I sound a tad
cynical it is because I am. My site explores a sexual fantasy and
that means just that. Not obsession, not perversion... just a
specific sexual fantasy... and how that fantasy, as with all
fantasies, are normal and should be expressed and enjoyed within the
context of fantasy with someone you love or a significant other. But
because I have my site that discusses a more clinical interest in
necrophilia, using my own interest in it as an example, I'm an easy
mark to being labeled "a real live necro"... and then I get the
requests for an interview because it's the format the instructor wanted
in order to force the student to establish some vague conclusion.
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I truly
do want to help everyone with their research but many questions are
asked repeatedly... and no one likes being put under a
microscope. I would love a student to have the courage to engage
their research paper away from the obsessive paraphilias, which
represent such a small part of our society, and begin to focus on the
idea of accepting who we are and learning how to relieve the stress
that forces us to question our own personal identities.
Quick Access Menu of Most Often
Asked Questions
1. Have
you ever really had sex with a dead person?
2. Does
your family know of your interest and what do they think about it?
3. Does
your wife know of your interest?
4. Have
you been treated for having this interest and if not, would you agree
to treatment?
5. Would
you want someone like yourself having sex with one of *your* loved ones?
6. Don’t
you think
it’s a form of rape? After all, the dead person gave you no
consent.
7. You
say this is mostly a fantasy with you?
8. Do
you have any real necro pics?
9. Do
you know where I can get real rape and snuff films or vids?
10. Were
you abused as a child?
11. Are
you a religious person?
12. What is
your occupation?
13. What's
your site all about?
14. Isn’t
all this talk
about loving the dead person simply a façade for just plain
sexual lust?
1. Have you ever
really had sex with a dead person?
This is the
most commonly asked question and when someone asks it I know
they failed to read all of my site. If they had they would see
that I have indicated that I have NOT, nor am I likely to, have sex
with a dead person. Would I, if I could? How would I
know. I mean, if all things were in place, ie. a secure
environment… the ‘appropriate’ corpse… who knows. More than
likely I’d freeze up. But that’s not likely going to happen nor
do I waste my days dreaming of it.
2. Does your
family know of your interest and what do they think about it?
This is the
second most asked question and it’s really stupid although folks ask it for many
different reasons. When it’s innocently asked it’s because of a
curiosity in thinking of me and my interest as a novel oddity. But most of the time it’s asked
as an attempt to intimidate and judge me or my family based on some
moral issues. Regardless the answer in all cases is this… Did your mother
or father share their sexual fantasies with you? Have you shared
with your kids how you might like to have sex with your wife
anally? Have you even shared with your kids how you happen to
enjoy oral sex? That’s my point. Why in God’s name would I
share any sex fantasies with anyone other than my significant other if
there was no reason for it?
3.
Does your wife know of your interest?
I kept is
secret from her for nearly 25 years. Then we sat down one day and
shared… turns out she has a bit of a bondage fetish and I had my
particular ‘slants’. She was not repulsed nor did she threaten me
with divorce. She knew me for over 25 years and in that time we
made love in the more ‘conventional’ ways and she knows me as I know
her. Confessing a fetish is hardly going to bring down a
marriage… if anything it should strengthen it. I believe it is a
moral sin to go through all the rituals of dating and marriage and
never share the most intimate thoughts with your significant other on
the one single part that binds two people together… sex and
intimacy. I should have done that years ago.
4.
Have you been treated for having this interest and if not, would you
agree to treatment?
Again,
would you agree to being treated for enjoying oral sex? To me
that is just as deviant a fetish as my interest is. Asking this
question assumes I am obsessed and all-consumed with necrophilac
thoughts to a point it affects myself or those around me… like
gambling or drinking. If you have to ask this question it means
you are not even qualified to ask it. Haven’t I said often enough
that I’ve had what most would call a life of ‘traditional’ sex?
Hell, I have three kids to prove I did it at least three times.
The question is absurd… but nonetheless commonly asked by those looking
to find some reason to justify their own beliefs.
5.
Would you want someone like yourself having sex with one of *your*
loved ones?
Now we
start to hit upon the moral issue. Let’s go right to the meat of
this. Some morticians without a doubt perform necrophilac
acts. Who knows what that percentage is or even if it’s been
studied. If my own daughter of 18 (the perfect age for these acts
to be performed on) met an untimely demise I would know no more or less
than anyone else what may have happened when she was on the
table. My
hope is that whatever occurred, be it nothing or
everything, it was with respect. What I don’t know won’t hurt
me.
I would be mourning her death too much to worry about what
‘might’ have happened after she died.
On my site
here I have a story about a girl who wrote to me about her concern for
her boy friend who recently had died in a swimming accident.
Because he had a very large penis she was concerned about someone
‘doing things’ to his body because of it. In essence I told her
to forget that and mourn his passing and to remember the good times she
had being on the receiving end of that thing and their obvious love for
each other.
6.
Don’t you think it’s a form of rape? After all, the dead person
gave you no consent. It may not be illegal but isn’t it immoral?.
Interestingly
I consider this a valid argument. We all have our personal
beliefs and for me to tell you what I believe is, or should be, the
‘correct’ belief is wrong. I prefer to believe that my interest
is just another measure of love and respect… I have NO desire to abuse
dead people. But some folks think that my fetish is simply
another form of abuse. I don’t happen to think that way… but I
can understand that feeling. All I can say is what I feel in my
heart when I’m imagining and dreaming is that I have a love and utmost
respect for the dead person.
7.
You say this is mostly a fantasy with you?
It’s ‘all’
fantasy to me. Again, I don’t practice this in real life.
But I have role played with a significant other who shared the
interest. Sexual role playing is healthy and necessary. I
am expressly non-violent and my lovemaking is gentle, soft, and slow.
8. Do you
have any real necro pics?
If ‘real
necro pics’ assumes pics of sexual acts on real dead people I do not
have any nor do I know if any even exist, outside of a mortician’s
personal collection (which I do know exist). Make friends with a
mortician.
9. Do
you know where I can get real rape and snuff films or vids?
No.
10. Were you
abused as a child?
No. I
have never been physically or emotionally abused nor have I suffered
from some trauma, physical or otherwise.
11. Are you a
religious person?
If that
means, do I believe in a spiritual higher authority, ie, God,
yes. I feel a spiritual belief in something is good for the mind
in explaining all those things that can’t readily be explained. As it is a human instinct to
dream and imagine and have
fantasies it is
also just as human to want to believe that a reason exists… for all
this to exist. I also believe in The Golden Rule.. do unto
others….
But do I
attend formal worship regularly? No. And if it matters, I’m
Lutheran from birth; my necro partner was catholic from birth; and a
couple of my on line fetish buddies are Jewish.
12. What is your
occupation?
I own a
small PC service business.
13. What's your
site all about?
Read the damn site.
14.
Isn’t all this talk about loving the dead person simply a façade
for just plain sexual lust?
I guess
you’d have to define lust. If it means sex simply because
you are
horny and the hell with the partner, or sex because you wish to share a
tender moment. You can tell me otherwise till hell freezes over,
but even the most devout and loving mariages contain sex of both kinds
at various times. So, do I think sex for lust as being somehow
‘bad’? No. So, given all that do I think my feelings for
having sex with a dead person is simply a matter of lust?
No. But if I were constantly exposed to dead people, as a
mortician would be, there might be ample opportunity for me to express
myself in a lustful manner over time, from time to time. But this
*is* just fantasy to me... nothing more. Consider the following
explanation...
Love, Death, and The Places of
Penetration
(A Graphic View Of My Interest)
Often folks will visit my site
and email me their surprise that while the subject of necrophilia may
seem kinky (to put it mildly) they are taken by the romantic approach I
take to justify my own fantasies to the point that one could accept the
idea.. maybe just a little. I describe things based on my
feelings.. the old instincts from the gut. The challenge is
putting those feelings into words that other folks can understand… they
really need not accept the concept. So when I talk about making
warm gentle love to a deceased woman, caressing, touching, and
savoring… bonding with her soul, and transferring my innermost care and
love through my essence resting inside her forever there’s an basic
understanding, if not acceptance, that the act is a caring, vaginal,
act in spite of the fantasy itself being out of the ordinary… and
seemingly ‘non-consentual’ in some interpretations. But, I also
discuss the process of lovemaking including oral and anal
penetration. To some, vaginal penetration can be considered a
normal act, perhaps more out of pure love. But anal penetration
and oral penetration seem a bit more… carnal and lusting, and maybe
‘abusive’ to some… casting a kind of ‘sluttyness’. So I thought I
would explain this a bit as it is an integral part of my fantasies.
First off, I’m a guy and it
goes without saying that I also have certain primal instincts I adhere
to in my fantasies as much as any other guy or girl. While I
don’t have the strong urge to impregnate the world through events of
casual sex (pure ‘fucking’) I still do hold true to form that what’s in
my heart and mind during sex… or making love… can involve a total
connection with the body. Between living people sex involves a
closeness that can very easily take the form of oral and anal
penetration as a way in which to show caring and supplying pleasure to
one’s self and their partner. But how can oral and anal
penetration be ‘justified’ in a supposedly loving necrophilic act when
it’s obvious only one person is benefiting from the experience?
Let me endeavor to answer that.
To me, in those extremely rare
instances (sadly) where I have been on the receiving end of oral sex,
the event was one of continued caring… her desire to pleasure me
balanced with a desire to pleasure herself. But look at the image
more closely. Her lips, beautiful and sensuous and representing
the origin of her sensitized first contact with you, are in full
contact with the singular most sexually sensitive part of your body..
the penis. Bringing it to life… filling you with desire and
pleasure… her lips and tongue performing an oral ‘hugging’… knowing she
wants to taste you.. your essence… the part deep from within you that
only passion can expel… the seminal spirit of your soul she takes
completely inside… literally becoming part of her sustenance once
inside her. Not like vaginal sex in that anything shot into it
ultimately comes out. That’s the feeling I perceive when
fantasizing about oral penetration with a dead woman. My love is
still entering her… the essence of my soul bonding with her… and in a
way that will never leave her body. It’s not about deep-throating
her with violent thrusts… but rather a gentle penetration… always
followed by a soft kiss… a kiss of love and assurance that the act I
just did was not perverted and that I want to taste ‘us’ on her
lips.
Okay.. all that being said..
and perhaps seeming palatable.. how can I justify anal sex with a dead
person when that’s an exit hole for the most part, and associated with
the body function of expelling solid waste? Well, for me simply
stated… if you look at vaginal, oral, and anal as I define them here
you will see that all three are essentially conduits for leaving my
‘love’ inside the person. On a woman those are the traditional
three ways inside… and the basic act of my post-mortem love making
culminates with me sending my semen.. my symbolic love, inside
her. In other words… vaginal penetration is the traditionally
natural act of love with my essence meeting her womb.. the
female’s source of all life. Oral penetration represents an
avenue (pun intended) by which my love will never be expelled from
her. Anal penetration represents, not ass-fucking, but rather
another intimate entrance into the body in which I can send my love.
Now, should the reality ever
pose itself it’s hardly likely I would ever actually have the stamina
to do all three in a short time… or even at all. But in my
fantasies, as with most people, we usually dream we are ‘better’ than
we really are. In a real life role play in a loving relationship
anything can be experienced. Now, you as the reader can sit back
from all this and make some Freudian judgement about who or what my
mental state might be but if you truly look deep enough at this it’s
really not a whole lot different than making love between two living
people.
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